Tuesday, September 20, 2016

The Savage Queen Revisited

My mother lent a copy of The Savage Queen to a neighbor. On the weekend, I met a young man named Elijah who I guess is a "fan." Elijah wants to make me a new cover for the book (an area that has always been lacking).

Well. I've always said I write for my readers, however many, and not money. One fan (well, maybe a couple more) and all of a sudden I have the writing bug again. Its been awhile. And that's a bug I have missed.

So. I have decided to publish a new second edition of The Savage Queen; I am working on a fresh edit, cleaning up a few things I wasn't happy with. Bits of grammar or scenes that always felt a bit off. Nothing that changes the overall story. And hopefully, if everything works out, it will have a nice new cover.

My plan this time is to focus on the ebook. The paper copies will still be available, but ebooks are more affordable (and, I admit, I get a better cut).So I am hoping to publish two ebooks:

1. Realm of the Flower. This will be a free ebook, containing most of the first half of The Savage Queen, ending somewhere around the battle of the Watch
2. The Savage Queen (2nd edition): This is the full ebook. Im hoping to price it around $5-7.

I'm going to do my best to get the free ebook out there as much as possible, hoping the battle at the Watch is good enough to get some people hooked enough to buy the full book.

And as this plan is rolling... maybe, just maybe, I'll again be working on book 2: The Iron King

Tuesday, January 12, 2016

Happy New Year

THIS is the year I start writing. Here, there, everywhere.

Kenny is five. A little man. Argues everything I say. But he's reading, and arguing, and adding, and arguing, and drawing and writing and arguing...

Josie is two. She cuddles, mumbles, get the odd word right, and acts like someone has taken away human rights every time they say no.

I'm working. And trying to write, but failing.

THIS is the year. Damnit.

Thursday, July 30, 2015


Ok, I feel bad for Cecil. Its sad. But why is my feed full of this as if it was the worst thing ever? The dentist was a prick, he deserves to be punished to the full extent of the law (not having his life torn down or threatened). Its sad that the lion is gone.

But why isn't my feed full of more important things? A lion dies, and every post on my feed is about Cecil?????

How about:

Saturday, February 14, 2015

Goofballs: Josie and her temper

Josie has been going going through something the last few weeks. Maybe teething, maybe sick, or maybe just a phase. Regardless of cause, the effect is she doesn't want to go to bed like she did. When we put her down, for naps especially, she pops back up on her feet and SCREAMS for an hour before eventually giving up and going to sleep. The same new "habit" has resulted in some rough nights for mom and dad.

We have seen her temper before. She throws toys that frustrate her. If her brother takes the teasing too far, she knocks him on his ass and doesn't hesitate to jump on him and pound away. Taking things from her she shouldn't have (like her favorite toy, a scewdriver) results in tantrums the likes of which we had only before witnessed on TV.

When she naps, Jo wears a sleep sack -- like the one here on the right. Basically part bag, part blanket, with a zipper that keeps her from tossing it off in the night and getting cold.

The other day, Nicole put her down for a nap. Jo cried for about an hour, as she does now. But understand; when I say "cry" I mean "screamed and shrieked as if murder was being committed". Eventually, to our relief, the raging stopped, and little Josie went to sleep.

An hour an a half later, she woke up. I went upstairs, opened her door and -with my mouth hanging open in shock - muttered "oh my god." I immediately called Nicole, telling her she had to see it too (I should have taken a picture, alas).

Her sleep sack, designed to be escape proof for little ones, hung from her in tatters; she hadn't unzipped it, she had ripped the zipper open. Her hair disheveled, looking as if she had spent her time upstairs yanking on her locks in fury. The few stuffed animals we had left in her crib were on the floor by the door, on the other side of the room. Except for one. One toy was torn open, its stuffing everywhere; in the crib, on the floor and sticking to Josie's unkempt hair. In her rage that we would dare try and get her to sleep, she had destroyed everything she could reach in a tantrum the likes of which I have not seen since the last time Nicole convinced me to play Monopoly with her.

Josie was eighteen months old yesterday. I.. am unprepared for what the future will bring.

Goofballs: Diary of my little brats

My blog has been a bit stagnant. for a while. I keep trying to fix it, and I keep failing. I just don't have a purpose for it. Well, inspiration hit the other day at work.

A friend of mine mentioned her kids, now teenagers, love reading the diary she kept of them when they were children, and that I should do the same. Well, what a great idea!

So this will now be a place where I can share the funniest and or strangest of stories about my two little goof balls. Hopefully one day they will enjoy reading the tales; in the meantime, hopefully you will!

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Why I don't like Pink for my Daughter

I don't like when people buy my daughter Pink items. And I always get asked why. Well, its not the color I have a problem with. In fact, Josie has several pink outfits that have my seal of approval.
Its what the color pink has come to mean. When you buy something pink, chances are the message on it is not exactly pro-feminist. Things like "little princess" seem harmless enough until you see the boys outfit from the same line of clothes saying "future engineer".

Check out this article. This line of clothes lets boys be super heroes, while girls get to DATE super heroes. Think about that message: how the boys are the strong ones, while the girls wait around for a man to take care of them (the EXACT message of Disney Princesses, btw). Get my daughter a pink outfit with a superman/woman shield and she can wear it; get her a pink outfit that says "Future Engineer" and Ill put it on her myself. Get her one that says "I only Date Heroes" and it will never leave the drawer.

Friday, August 22, 2014

Depression and Suicide, and my thoughts on Robin Williams

When I was a teenager, I wanted to die.

To this day, I don’t really know why. I was lonely, and had fallen into a darkness I could never understand, filled with a depression that was overwhelming. I felt my sanity slipping away, and getting out of bed every day was a struggle. I wanted to die, more than I wanted anything. I cut myself -and I still bear the scars - in an attempt to bleed off some of the inexplicable pain that dragged me down like an anchor.

So when I say Robin Williams was a selfish coward to take his own life, I say it with empathy and understanding. But the fact is, his children, his family, his friends will never be the same. He hurt them, badly. And I understand that.

Henry Rollins posted this:

“I simply cannot understand how any parent could kill themselves. How in the hell could you possibly do that to your children? I don’t care how well adjusted your kid might be — choosing to kill yourself, rather than to be there for that child, is every shade of awful, traumatic and confusing. I think as soon as you have children, you waive your right to take your own life. No matter what mistakes you make in life, it should be your utmost goal not to traumatize your kids. So, you don’t kill yourself.”

People on the internet are of course calling him out for being insensitive, for being an asshole. Clearly, they say, Mr. Henry Rollins has never experienced depression. But here’s the thing: he’s not wrong.

When I sat in my room as a teenager, digging into my arm with a stolen steak knife, one thing stopped me. One thought of clarity, even as my vision was blinded by tears: my mom would be destroyed. From there, I thought of all the people that would be hurt – my sister, my father, even the friends I had distanced myself from. No matter how full of self-pity, self-hate and depression I became, I could not lie to myself about that. I would hurt them more than I could bear.

Robin Williams killed himself anyways, and left behind a lot of hurting loved ones. And I understand that too. Because a day or a week or a month after the revelation about my mother, the knife was again poised against my bleeding arm. And I cursed myself for being weak, knowing my suffering was hurting my family, knowing that my death would hurt them more, but knowing I could not go on. And I eventually put away that knife again. For a day, or a week, or a month, before I did it again.

Depression is a horrible thing. To this day, it still affects me. I like to say that I have beaten it, and perhaps I have. But I would be lying if I said I never glanced at a rope or a knife and thought it would be easier. Like hitting reset in a video game, I tell myself, except we only get the one life. But I’m happy. I love my family, and I love my life. And still, that darkness is there, in the corners of my mind, waiting to pounce in a moment of weakness. I feel it when I let my guard down, when I’m feeling low or lost or tired or weak or sick of suffering. When life again feels like more than I can handle. And I understand that the darkness will stay with me, forever and always, a constant battle that will likely never have a winner.

Perhaps Robin Williams grew tired of that fight, and let his darkness win. Perhaps the fact that he was allegedly facing a debilitating disease was too much, and it pushed him over. Perhaps that is something I may face some day, and maybe I too will eventually lose this war that constantly pulls at my thoughts and emotions. He lost the fight. And as a man that suffered from this terrible disease, he deserves our pity and love and understanding. As a man that fought for so many years, he deserves out respect. As a man that hurt his family, he deserves our anger and criticisms.

Robin Williams knew what he was doing, and whom he was hurting. Just like I knew, sobbing as I sat on a kitchen counter clutching a knife in front of my mother, that I was killing her with the pain of my suffering. I deserved criticism for that.  Someone should have grabbed me by the shirt and shook some sense into me; someone should have screamed at me to look at what I was doing to my mother, at how selfish I was being. I deserved it. But to act as if I, as if Robin Williams, did no wrong is foolish. We should be allowed to say that Robin Williams was selfish, without being called hateful or uncompassionate. He was selfish, and he would have known it, and that would have made him feel even worse, in a horrible spiral of suffering. Ignoring what he did will not make it go away. We all have a right to our anger. 
Beyond the anger of what he did, he deserves our forgiveness, and understanding. He fought the good fight, and lost in the end. This is a disease with no reason, a killer that can creep into the minds of any of us, any of our loved ones.  Its victims need our love and understanding, our forgiveness and compassion.
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